the ladders

just read about an interesting theory...quoting from xinen's blog:

" Guys and Girls both place their girl and guys friends, respectively, on different ladders. Guys only have one ladder while girls have two.

Two ladders. One that we put guys that could potentially be boyfriends or husbands on and the other, no matter what, strictly and purely friends only. And no matter what the guy does or however close you get to him, will always remain on that ladder. The friends only ladder. while boys on the other ladder have the potential to be classified boyfriend material should the opportunity arise or circumstance occur. And the 2 ladders never touch each other and are independantly standing on their own.

While boys on the other hand, have only one ladder, and with time, effort, some laughs, a few tears maybe, and a whole lot of trust, a girl can move upwards along that ladder and potentially become girlfriend or wifey material. "

maybe we nv realise but subconsciously yes, i do have that 2 ladders. and one of it has been rather vacant except for ..haha you know who alrdy. it's just that he seem to slip up and down the ladder at diff times. and for the record, i think it's right at the top now on that ladder, but that doesn't mean that ladder is surely leading to the correct place in the future where i want it to be.